Sunday, December 8, 2013

5 Love Languages


The 5 Love Languages is a book by Gary Chapman which explains 5 ways that people want to be loved. When others are speaking those love languages they feel THE MOST loved and their "love tank" is full. However, when their language is not spoken they feel unloved no matter how much you try to demonstrate love in your own way...it's not enough.  If you are having a hard time communicating to your husband what it takes for you to feel truly loved perhaps you are not exactly sure or you need a little help. The book is a great resource. However, you can go over to the online quiz to find out your love language.

They say that your love language is the language you find yourself doing the most for others.  I love to serve and help others.  Its fun to me.  I've been like that since I was little.  With that being said, I love for my husband to help me.  My husband loves my undivided attention.  If I'm not giving it to him just the way he wants it we have some SERIOUS issues.  I'm the type of person that wants to carry on a conversation from two different rooms while I do laundry or dishes etc.  He wants me to sit down and get eyeball to eyeball.  So guess what, we get eyeball to eyeball.

Don't be surprised it it takes some time for have an appreciation for one anothers' style of love, but I certainly love the outcome of investment I have made in him and my marriage.  More importantly, isn't that how our Father loves us...individually and uniquely.  Our marriage is the only institution on earth where we are demonstrating Christ's love for his church (bride)

"For these people, actions speak louder than words."

"For some people, what makes them feel most loved is to receive a gift."

"This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention."

"To this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch."

"This Language uses words to affirm other people."


My love language is Acts of Service and my secondary one is Quality Time. Most people have a runner up. Boy, is my love tank full when The Mister is helping me get groceries out of the car and doing those dishes. Whats funny is, many times our spouse's language is totally different than ours.  Which causes us to grow because we have to step outside of our strengths and comfort zones in order to make sure we are filling their love tank.


The book is phenomenal, but if you just want to know what your love language is then take the test for yourself :)



Saturday, December 7, 2013

Midnight Madness

Wanna know what its like to be awake in the middle of the night in my house while my husband and doggy are sleep?  NOISY.  Im up late on a Saturday night journaling and I hear my husband snoring away and next thing you know I hear my dog whimpering in his sleep.  Its like they were making a soundtrack for a zombie movie.  That's when you know its some good sleep!

If you lie down, you will not be afraid. When you lie down, your sleep will be sweet. Prov 3:24

Life is sweet,
charlamazing

Friday, December 6, 2013

Match Made in Heaven

The Mister and I took a fun personality test. It was very quick yet eerily accurate! I havent got the slightest clue what an aura is but I love personality tests. Click this link if you want to take the test. What is Your True Color Aura Test
CHARLAMAZING
Your Aura is Purple! 
Personality: Purples hold themselves to sky high standards, and are always very graceful. Purple is envied, idolized, and copied without even realizing it. They are an icon for those who know you. Purple is the most down to earth aura, they are the typical guy or gal next door. Purples may think they are better than others but deep inside they know they are not. Purple is very practical. Other auras take a liking into purple. Idealistic and thoughtful, they have the mind and ideas to change the world. Purple has the charisma of a great leader. Purples have one of the most active imaginations, but tend to be more focused on what could be potentially possible than dreaming about the impossible. Purples live a well balanced life and prefer to stay as calm as possible.Having a personality color purple or violet as your favorite color means you are sensitive and compassionate, understanding and supportive, thinking of others before yourself. You are a gentle and free spirit. Purples feelings run deep and you can be quite sensitive to hurtful comments from others, although you would never show it. You are usually introverted rather than extroverted and may give the impression of being shy although this is not the case. You are creative and like to be individual in most of your endeavors, including your dress and home decoration - you love the unconventional. You inspire others with your creative thinking and your ability to deal positively with adversity. You can be secretive, with even your closest friends not really knowing you well. You dislike being part of the crowd. You don't like to copy others and you don't like them to copy you. You are a visionary, with high ambitions, dreams and desires, and a compulsion to help humanity and to improve the planet earth. Being the free spirit you are, you love to travel to experience different cultures and meet new peopleYou are a good judge of character and sum others up quite quickly and accurately, although you usually see the best in everybody. Time means little to you and you are often late for everything. You trust the flow of the Universe to take care of everything. You can be selfish and self-indulgent as you don't like being imposed upon by others beliefs and regulations. 

Words that Describe Purple: Intuitive,Seeking, Creative, Kind, Self-Sacrificing. Growth Oriented, Strong, Very Wise, and Rare.
Purpose of Life: Saying Truths That Other People Dare Not Say
Love Life:You're very passionate but often too busy for love. You need a partner who sees your vision and adopts it as their own 
Perfect Color Love Match: Red is the perfect mate for a purple they meet every standard of ours.
Friendship Color: Blue is the perfect friend for a purple due to there introvert attitude
Color Opposite:Your color wheel opposite is Yellow. While yellow people may be wise, they lack the manners and class needed to impress you
Yellow: Way to immature to meet our standards!
Pink: If outgoingness is on our “Have to have list” pinks are also one of the top choices for Purples 
Green: Greens are way too shy and may be overlooked 
Blue: Blue is one of the others that may meet our standards. They are deep and Sincere and is an awesome mate! 
Orange: Can be just a little bit more mature than Yellow, but nawh I think we’ll pass 
White: Way deep inside purples may have this strange feeling for whites 


THE MISTER
Your Aura is Blue!
Personality: Blue’s are very loyal and can be the truest friend any aura could hope to find. Emotional and even a bit moody. Blues handle the truth very well. They take every event into stride. Blues are the calm spot in a sea of chaos. They think that the solution to most problems is open communication; they wish that people would be more real with each other. An emotionally driven personality, you need to be liked and accepted. You are a polite, cooperative person who seeks to create conflict-free surroundings. You possess highly developed powers of observation. Family is important to you and you sometimes find yourself in the role of being a caretaker. You take time to process and share your feelings.  You are genuine and sincere, and you take your responsibilities seriously. You have a deep need for peace and harmony in your everyday life. You appear to be confident and self-controlled, but may be hiding your vulnerable side. You are generally fairly even-tempered, unless your emotions take over - then you can become either moody and over-emotional, or cool and indifferent. While you are friendly and sociable, you prefer the company of your own close group of friends. You are a rescuer and love to be needed. You can be rigid - you like to stick to what is familiar to you- you stubbornly do things your way even if there is a better way. You can be quite manipulative but in a very subtle way. You make a loyal and faithful marriage partner and you are an honest, trustworthy and sincere friend. You are aware of others feelings and sensitive to the moods of others. You are approachable and friendly, always making people feel welcome in your life. You have a thirst for knowledge in order to gain wisdom and appear knowledgeable in whatever area interests you.

Words that Describe Blue: Emotional, Affected, Sensitive, Peaceful, Tranquil, Connected, Spiritual, Experimental, and Deep.
Purpose of Life:Showing Love to Other People
Love Life: Relationships are your top priority, and this includes love. You are most happy when you are serious with someone.
Perfect Color Love Match: Red: Committed and Passionate they are definitely a good mate (The Mister says that his blue cancels out the blue in my purple which leaves RED...so loyal!)
Friendship Color: When you and purple (charlamazing! yaay!) are together no one can stop you!
Color Opposite:Your color wheel opposite is Orange. Orange people may be opinionated, but you feel they lack the depth to truly understand what they're saying
Yellow: Too annoying to even take a liking to 
Pink: You are very lucky if Pink even pays attention to you, their reputation may be in the way to start a relationship with them 
Green: Another perfect match for blue! They have one of those personalities that make you want to be around them all the time. 
Orange: They believe they are way too good for blues, which is not true at all!! 
Purple: Without Blue there would not even be a purple, they are the best bet at finding your soul mate 
White: Their studies get in the way from every flirtatious move you make to them

Take the test for yourself. What color are you?
charlamazing

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Sticks and Stones

I wish I could say I've got this whole supportive wife thing all figured out. I think I get it right more times than I get it wrong.  Personally, that's saying a lot because I used to be the poster child for "when keeping it real goes wrong". But every now and again I have one of those learning experiences that remind me to take a step back and humble myself.

The other day The Mister was telling about his goals and preparation for his business, but all I could think of was what could go wrong and why this, why that, and what about...?  Long story short...I totally killed his vibe.  Then he said something really profound.  "I don't like compliments from anyone else but you."  So that I wouldn't miss the golden opportunity to get it right the next time I asked, "What exactly would you like me to say in a situation like this?"

He simply wanted me to say "Great job.  That sounds like a great plan.  Make sure you are doing what you need to do."  He simply wanted some encouragement and accountability.

Lessons learned: My opinion (besides Jesus) is the one he values most.  And never be too proud to humble myself to learn how he would like me to best handle that situation in the future.

So ladies, remember your opinion is most likely the only one that matters.  Never take your position of power for granted.  We sure know how to use it to manipulate and get our way. Lets use them to pour into our husbands!

Death and life are in the power of the tongue and those who love it will eat its fruit. Prov 18:21

Life is sweet,
charlamazing


Sunday, December 1, 2013

Punch Lines #3

Inquiring minds want to know...do we want to have kids or when are we going to start having kids. Well, yes we do and that's for us to know and you to find out ;P

The Mister and I were talking about fertility and his answer to that was "A quickie a day keeps the doctor away".

How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much better is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your oils than any spice! Song of Solomon 4:10

Punch lines...no punch back,
charlamazing

Saturday, November 30, 2013

Reality Show

We got a letter in the mail from a friend who's organization we support.  At the end of the letter it says, "You two should have your own reality show.  When I look at your names, it brings me such joy that I start gigglin'..."

Im not quite sure its safe for our home life to leave the four corners of this house.  Lets just be real, I only tell you what I want you to know on this blog LOL.  Do you ever feel like your family could have a reality show?

Life is sweet,
charlamazing

Friday, November 29, 2013

Punch Lines #2

Can someone please tell me how a creme filled Krispy Kreme doughnut sparked a nostalgic moment of when he smoked cigarettes for a stint?? Which I never knew!! Did I judge him a little bit...yes I did. Unfortunately, I cant disclose what direction that conversation went in.

I didn't want all of the creme in the doughnut so I was tapping the doughnut to get the creme out.  He says, "that reminds me of how I used to tap them cigarettes back in the day". I proceed to give him the side eye and #smh.

Punch lines...No punch back,
charlamazing